When it comes to cougar dating, I have discovered that you have a better chance of finding the alphas when you know where to look. The cougar comes in two classes, the alpha wants to find a young stud to dominate in bed, the beta wants you to make her feel better about herself. I used to try and fight a dozen guys at the bar for a shot at one alpha cougar, now they all come to me.
These are the best ways to find a cougar outside of the bar scene.
1. The Dog Park
Most cougars don’t have a man at home to take care of their pooch, so they usually take them to the dog park to allow them to stretch their legs. These cougars rarely if ever get approached at the dog park because most guys at these locations are too timid or already married. I found that if I spot the same woman at the dog park, it is a breeze to walk up to her because she feels this is a safe setting. I usually start complementing her dog, then some small talk, and I leave her wanting more.
I don’t fall all over myself, I just chat her up, and tell her to give me her number and I might call her. Usually, she hits me up before the night is over because she is wondering why I didn’t fall all over her.
2. The Local Gym
The cougar is always going to be close to a gym if she wants to maintain her incredible body. Hooking up with younger guys means she has to look her best to compete with the little bimbos that rarely exercise and look like toothpicks. What I do is make my move at the gym but I never lay it on too thick. I compliment her on her routine, tell her that I think she’s cute, and tell her I’m heading out for a coffee if she wants to join me.
If she can’t, I leave her my number and tell her if she wants to connect that I’m available around the clock. My phone usually rings midnight that evening.
3. The Coffee Shop
I can spot a cougar at the coffee shop a mile away. The best part about meeting the cougar at the coffee shop is she is usually with her girlfriends. Cougar dating is all about letting her think she has the control, so I approach her table and ask her situation. When she tells me she is available, I tell her that I might be free this weekend if she is up for an adventure.
When she asks what type adventure, I reply with something silly like going to the library or going bowling, then I wink at her.
4. The Supermarket
The cougar has to eat, and if she is shopping at the supermarket, I can tell her situation just looking in her cart. Once I determine she is on the prowl, I ask her if she needs anyone to help prepare that food for her. After I get a giggle and a smile, I slip her my number and tell her that it is a shame that two gorgeous people must eat alone this week. When I walk away, I remind her that I am an awesome chef, but I do like to cook naked.
She can’t stop smiling, and more importantly, she can’t stop thinking about me until she calls that night.
5. The Bike/Running Trails
If the cougar is not at the gym, then she is riding the bike trails at the park or running the pathways. The cougar wants a guy who is not only in shape, but confident too. When I spot the cougar alone on the trails, the number one thing I do is try not to scare them or have them feel like I am stalking them. I wait until there are people around so she feels safe, then I ask if she would mind running or riding with me because I hate talking to myself in the park.
If she resists, I run into her the next day and remind her that I offer personal training lessons in a more private setting, give her my number, and wait for the call.
The cougars that you find in the bar are being chased by a dozen guys who have no shot at getting anywhere. Increase the odds in your favor by finding cougars in those places they love to hang out where the competition is non-existent.